“Man has to pay the price of fear and worry in order to be man.Our susceptibility to anxiety is the soil of our human growth”
Worry and fear are quite natural in every human life. No one is free from these unfortunate states of mind as long as
one’s mind remains in this mundane world. One who does not like to have worries and fears must try to purify oneself and attain perfection; hence if one is wise enough one could make up ones mind and subdue worries and fears by realizing the nature of life.
Many people have longings and hankering, fear and anxieties which they have not learnt to sublimate and are ashamed to admit them even to themselves. But these unwholesome emotions have force.up and they seek a release by disordering the physical machinery resulting in chronic illnesses. All these can be repelled by correct
methods of meditation or mental culture, because, untrained mind is the main cause of such worries.No matter how they may try to bottle them
The Buddha says: “Your sorrow is caused by your own actions, arising from your own ignorance. I will teach
you how to remove that sorrow for yourself. But you must work to gain it.” Therefore your strong will-power plays a great part to overcome your worries.
Again the Buddha says:
“From attachment springs grief, from attachment springs fear; for him who is free from attachment there is no grief much less fear.”Here, too much of attachment to various things in this world is another main reason for worries and fears. Further the Buddha advises us:”Let us guard the doors of the senses. Let us be restrained in our eating, Let us vow ourselves to earnestness and arm ourselves with an intelligence clean and unclouded and be free from miseries. Here it clearly shows that there is a method for us to adopt to be free from all these unfortunate worries, miseries and fear. You may blame others for your worries but others cannot create worries in your mind if you know how to guard your mind. They may create troubles but you can face them bravely if you are wise enough.
Experience teaches us that a good deal of ill-health, both physical and mental, is due to worries. Medical science
is definitely of the view that such diseases as diabetes, high blood pressure and gastric ulcer are aggravated, if not actually brought about, by states of anxiety. Doctors are inclining more
and more to the opinion that, in the treatment of most functional disorders close attention should be paid to the mental condition of the patient and indeed realize that your worries never solve your problems; instead ruin you physically and mentally and never help you in any respect for your own benefit. Not only that, you create a very unhealthy atmosphere in your home, your office and in society. You are also responsible for disturbing
others in their peace and happiness.
Of all adverse mental states, the most obviously unhealthy and potentially dangerous one is prolonged worry. Why, we naturally ask, do people worry? In the ultimate analysis there is only one answer. People worry because of thoughts of “me” and “mine”. We yearn for security, for ourselves and for those we love, in a changing world that offers no permanent security. He who builds sand-castles on the beach is afraid of every wave.
Whenever you have worries in your mind, don’t show your sulky face to each and every person you come across.
You can reveal your worries only to those who really could help you. How nice it would be if you could maintain your smiling face in spite of all the difficulties confronting you. This is not very difficult if only you really try. Many teenagers worry too much when their friendship with the opposite sex is lost. They often plan even to commit suicide compelled by the plight of frustration and disappointment. Some find place in lunatic asylums. Many such broken-hearted youths lead miserable lives. All these unfortunate events happen due to lack of understanding
of the real nature of life. Somehow or other departure or separation is unavoidable. This may happen sometimes at the beginning of a life career; sometimes in the middle and sometimes at the end; it is certainly unavoidable. When such things happen one must try to find out where the cause lies. However, if the separation is beyond control one must have the courage to bear it out by realizing the nature of life. But on the other hand it is not difficult for anyone to find new friends, to fill the vacuum if one really wants to.